By Dr. Cassidy A. Spradlin
University of Kentucky
It can be stressful when someone close to you needs medical attention, especially when it’s your child.
There are a multitude of reasons a child might need to go to the hospital, whether it’s routine or unexpected. These can range from broken bones and allergic reactions to breathing treatments and more complex medical conditions. Regardless of the severity, the important thing is that your child is getting the care they need.
The hospital experience can be hard on the entire family. It is often accompanied by fear, uncertainty and exhaustion. Luckily, there are ways to improve hospital visits for both you and your child. Here is a guide for what to do if your child is admitted to the hospital:
• Be honest, but age appropriate. Explain to your child what will happen using simple, clear language. Uncertainty and surprises can increase distress, so it’s best to be proactive and transparent.
• Bring comfort items from home. A favorite blanket, stuffed toy or even their pillow can make the hospital feel less unfamiliar.
• Try to keep a daily routine. It is helpful for children to try to keep a regular bedtime, even when in the hospital. Having a routine that includes a mixture of fun activities (like games or crafts), “normal” daily tasks (like hygiene and meals) and required medical care can help children cope.
• Be patient with your child. Emotional and behavioral changes are common when a child is sick or injured, but they are often temporary. If your child’s behavior becomes difficult to manage at the hospital, it is okay to set rules and limits like you would at home.
• Stay calm and present. Children often mirror adult emotions. Staying calm reassures them that they are safe.
• Offer choices when possible. Let them choose which arm to use for their blood pressure cuff or what movie to watch. Small choices help give children a sense of control.
• Validate their feelings. Say things like, “It’s okay to feel scared” and encourage your child to talk about their feelings. This builds trust and emotional resilience.
• Use simple coping strategies. Teach deep breathing, counting or imagining a favorite place during stressful moments.
Remember, you know your child better than anyone. Advocate for your child and teach them advocate for themselves. As a parent, it is important to ask questions, so you are informed with accurate information. Encourage your child to participate and ask doctors and nurses questions as well. It is also okay to let staff know your child’s fears, preferences and triggers — they can often adapt their approach.
Finally, take care of yourself; your well-being directly impacts your child. Hospitalizations can be overwhelming, and no one should have to navigate the experience alone. Even short breaks or talking to a friend can help you stay grounded. The hospital has professionals who specialize in supporting children and families during medical stays, including psychosocial care teams who can help children cope and offer guidance and support for caregivers as well.
Dr. Cassidy A. Spradlin, Ph.D. is a pediatric psychologist at Golisano Children’s at the University of Kentucky.